John Legend has revealed that he felt ‘a real sense of community’ when he and wife Chrissy Teigen revealed their baby son had been stillborn.
The couple, who are also parents to Luna, four, and two-year-old Miles, announced that they had lost their third child, Jack, in the 20th week of pregnancy last year.
While appearing on CBS This Morning, John reflected on the support they received and how he thinks speaking publicly about their loss has helped others.
Candid: John Legend has revealed that he felt ‘a real sense of community’ when he and wife Chrissy Teigen revealed they had lost their baby son (pictured in March)
John, 42, said: ‘You know, Chrissy always is more sharing that I am. I’m a bit more private.
‘But what I’ve learned through that process is, first of all, how often this happens to so many other families around the world.
‘We felt a real sense of community by sharing it with other people. They felt seen by us, we felt seen by them.
‘And I think it helps everyone deal with their grief when they know there are other people out there feeling it too.’
Devastating: The model, 35, and her 42-year-old husband John Legend were left devastated when their third child passed away during his mother’s 20th week of pregnancy
John added that he’s ‘so glad’ he went along with Chrissy’s ‘instinct’ to share their pain because he now thinks it was the ‘right’ thing to do.
He added: ‘I am so glad Chrissy’s instinct was to share this, because it was really the right thing to do.
‘I think it helps us get through it, and I think it helped other families going through the same thing get through it.’
The singer also acknowledged their loss is common, but one which people can often feel uncomfortable talking about, so he hopes he and Chrissy have made things a little easier.
He said: ‘People feel such shame and they feel lonely, and I think we helped people feel less lonely.’
Heartbreaking: Chrissy and John candidly shared their grief with the world and posted a series of black-and-white photos taken from her hospital room after Jack was stillborn in September
Chrissy and John had revealed the loss of their third child in early October when they shared a series of heartbreaking photos from the hospital.
Doctors had diagnosed the TV personality with partial placental abruption – where the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus causing the baby’s airflow to be blocked or limited.
Her body was no longer able to sustain the pregnancy and despite ‘bags and bags of transfusion’, doctors couldn’t halt the bleeding.
All Of Me singer John told the Times T2 magazine last year that he admires his wife even more now because of the bravery she showed in her decision, despite feeling ‘nervous’ to take the images at the time.
Missing him: Chrissy recently posted a photo of a bracelet made for Jack as she somberly commemorated what would have been his due date in February
Chrissy later revealed she asked John to take the ‘uncomfortable’ pictures because she ‘needed to know the moment forever’ and admitted she knew he ‘hated doing it’.
Speaking to the publication, John said: ‘I was nervous when we were taking pictures in the hospital because emotionally I didn’t know if I could handle looking at them.
‘But I really do believe that it was good for Chrissy to share her story with people.’
John took some of the images shared in their social media posts, one of which shows Chrissy sobbing while sitting in her hospital bed. While another captures the devastated spouses cradling their baby’s body.
John revealed that since Chrissy shared their experience they have received an overwhelming reaction from people who have been through the same thing.
Mourning: While earlier this month, it was revealed that big sister Luna continues to mourn her baby brother Jack ‘every day’
John also admitted that it serves as a reminder that although the family appear to lead the ‘perfect’ life, they are very much human and experience loss and tragedy.
At the time, Chrissy captioned the images taken by John: ‘We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before.
‘We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.
‘We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital.
‘But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.’
Earlier this month, it was revealed that John and Chrissy’s daughter Luna continues to mourn her baby brother ‘every day’ following his heartbreaking stillbirth.
Chrissy’s mother Vilailuck, known affectionately as Pepper, revealed that the family have kept tragic little Jack’s memory alive by talking about him daily.
Pepper, 59, told WSJ Magazine: ‘Luna talks about him every day, and that’s how we grieve. We talk about him every day. That’s how we grieve. We’re getting better each day.… We’re getting so much better, and Chrissy too.’
Pepper, who lives in Beverly Hills with her daughter and son-in-law, helps care for the couple’s children, daughter Luna, four, and son Miles, two.
For help and support with related issues, visit The International Stillbirth Alliance at www.stillbirthalliance.org or stillbirth, premature birth and miscarriage charity Tommy’s at www.tommys.org
Family: Pepper, who lives in Beverly Hills with her daughter and son-in-law, helps care for the couple’s children, daughter Luna, four, and son Miles, two